Wednesday, August 31, 2016
I told myself I never would. I'm a Google fanatic. I love having one place for everything of mine.
But man, WordPress is slick.
I've made the move from Blogger to WordPress. I'm not disappearing, by any means, I'll just be updating the Wondering Wanderer from here now. Please, please, please don't leave me just because I've left the Google! This move is strategic: WordPress allows for a much more streamlined interface, for potential to own my own domain, and for an all-around more professional appearance.
Eventually, I want to be a published writer. Consider this a step toward that--however vague and lofty--goal.
See you over there, and as always, happy trails. <3
Sunday, August 21, 2016
During my lunch with my last stop, we talked about moving on and being free. He urged me to not settle, or settle down, or stay here. Now is the time for you to get out there and see everything! I told him that was my plan...eventually...I just am always conflicted between running away on an adventure and thinking practically and settling into a job. Then, the second to the last thing he said was "I see something in your eyes, like it might not take much for you to stay here. I hope I'm wrong."
That went all the way to my core. Am I like that? Is that true? All my life I've striven to get out of Georgia, and yet a native Georgian can see it in my eyes, my attachment to this state. How much would it take for me to stay here? A plea from the family? The friends? A mediocre job, or a once-in-a-lifetime job? Anything? Am I that afraid of leaving, that I would risk my grand adventures for the safe option? The last thing he said to me was "Don't take this the wrong way, but I hope we never see you again." Of course, I knew what he meant: he knows there's more for me than what is here, and he sincerely hopes I find it.
Two weeks later, I'm still mulling over our conversation. How many times does someone need to come back to a place and say goodbye? I'd already done it twice. Was he right, that I don't really want to leave?
No. I think part of the impetus behind him saying that to me, was to light a proverbial fire under my butt, and make me prove him wrong. Point well made, sir. There comes a time when we must say that final, final, final goodbye to a place that has shaped us; it is at a time when we know that to stay in that place would leave us stagnant, when there is no more for us to learn or absorb. So, we come back and back and back again to say goodbye and eat our last meals with the people who have helped shape us, but eventually, to keep growing, we must kick up that dust and not return to it.
But, how does one ever fit all the necessary parting words into one, or two, or five final visits? Even for someone like me who enjoys language, stories, and conversations, I cannot pick my sentences carefully enough to ever be satisfied that I have said all of my heart's thoughts. I think that is just life, though. There's never enough time, or the mood is never quite right, or your brain just doesn't cooperate, to feel complete closure about a season in your life. So we keep coming back, hoping that this time when we leave we'll feel better, or more peaceful, about leaving behind something that has shaped such a part of you. Inevitably, we never do. Some of us find excuses to keep coming back, either to relive a part of our lives that we miss, or to keep trying to find the last words to say.
Sometimes, "goodbye" doesn't just cut it. Perhaps that's because we are, after all, leaving a part of ourselves there. It is hard to say goodbye to yourself; we are selfish beings, we desire to keep ourselves, well, to ourselves. But inevitably...we can't. We leave a bit of who we were in the dirt from our childhood, the trees we fell out of, the first house we left when we were young. We leave a bit of who we were in the freshman dorm during our first year at college: when our small town minds are exposed to the world at large. We leave a bit of who we were at our first job: our first chance to prove ourselves, and the first hard lessons we learned that forever altered our personalities.
Every place, or person, that irrevocably changed you keeps the old you. And more than saying goodbye to a house or a piece of land, saying goodbye to who you once were is difficult. The old you will always immediately flood back into your mind when you pass through, no matter how many years separated you are. --I think that is probably why it is so easy for us to slip back into old bad habits when returning to our hometowns, but that is a different story, for another time--
So, perhaps, instead of "goodbye," when we are pulling up our stakes and packing our final bags, on our final final final trip back, we should say "thanks." Thanks for what what I learned, what I didn't learn, what you gave me, what you took from me, and how you shaped me into the new me, the one that leaves the old me in the dirt I kick up behind my truck. If I ever need to see how far I've come, I'll come back, rustle the dust, see the old me there, and realize how glad I am that I was lucky enough to see it was time to go somewhere else, and change again. So goodbye, again, and thanks.
Thursday, July 14, 2016
In 2013, I wrote a blog about coming here; much of my sentiments could be reversed in this post.
This is my fourth summer here, and I could fill a book with everything I have learned here, in this dirt and on this ground. I hope to do just that, someday. But in the meantime, I'm trying to get my head around the idea that I'll be leaving here soon, and leaving the life I've built here.
The first few days I came down to the field site in June, I was here alone. It's a good thing, because I was an emotional mess. I was minding my own business, organizing supplies in our brand new storage building, when it hit me that all these supplies, the storage building, the check station, the trailer, the dirt I was standing on...was about to not be "mine" anymore. This place has been home for my summers, some autumns, and some winters. It's been the place I ran to for comfort, for mud, for bears, for new experiences, and for peace. There's nothing that quite replaces sitting on the front porch watching the sun rise through those oaks in the front yard.
It's been a hard fought four years here: lots of blood, sweat, tears, pain, joy, dirt, rain, bugs, love, and laughter. Before coming here, I'd never driven a truck (consistently), never driven a four-wheeler, never driven in mud, never handled barbed wire, never hauled a trailer, never touched a bear, never cried so much over bears, never plugged a tire, never cursed so frequently, never loved so profoundly, and never suffered loss so profoundly.
It feels like I've grown up here, even though I was in my twenties when I came. In a way, I have grown up: I've learned what it takes to be a technician, crew leader, boss, team manager, research coordinator, go-fer, hunter, listener, and doer. I've learned to deal with conflict that involves me, is because of me, and doesn't involve me at all. I've learned how to talk to all sorts of people from all sorts of walks of life, and I've learned how to earn their respect. None of these things have I done perfectly, and some I haven't even done well...but I've tried above all to be aware of opportunities to take lessons from every day I've spent here. Whether it be learning mechanics, or history, fungus or tracking, hunting or wine-making, I have tried to keep both my eyes and both my ears open, holding my hands out palm up, waiting for whatever someone passed to me. Not to say that was easy, or always fun. It hasn't been only sunshine and rainbows. But, my time here has been invaluable to me.
I think what has struck me the most has been the genuine spirits of everyone I've met. If they like you, they'll give you the shirt off their back...if they don't like you, you know it--which I think is better than pretending. Everyone I've come to know here is eager to talk about what they know and how they've learned it, especially if you're eager to listen. I am forever in debt to the people here for taking me in, teaching me things, and pulling me out of trouble more than I'd like to admit.
I've successfully defended my thesis now, and all that remains are last-minute edits, format checks, and wrapping up the fifth and final season here. After that, we'll all have pulled up our stakes from Ocmulgee dirt and moved on.
Only thing is...I don't know exactly to where I'm moving. For the first time in my life, I have little direction. I have, mostly, always known exactly what my next step is. Now...I could take a step in any direction, and make something of myself. It is terrifying. It is also terribly freeing. The world is my oyster right now: I could go anywhere, and be anything. Some days I am okay with it: my free spirit soaring at the thought of riding into the sunset. Some days...I wish to go backwards in time to when I had a singular path. I know, though, that right now is exactly where I'm meant to be, whether I know what the future holds or not.
I keep telling myself, in my moments of panic, that as long as I can wake up each morning, remember how it is that I'm here--not through abilities acquired on my own, but through what I've been given--give thanks to God for what He has done, and step out of bed knowing that I. can. do. this. It's not going to be easy, or straightforward, but it will be good, so help me God.
"9Now about your love for one another we do not need to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love each other. 10And in fact, you do love all of God's family throughout Macedonia. yet we urge you, brothers and sisters, to do so more and more, 11and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you, 12so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody." 1 Thessalonians 4:9-12
Let it be so with me.
Thursday, May 5, 2016
Ever since I was little I've been plagued with indecision. Everyone who's ever been around me for long enough knows this to be true. I agonize over every angle of a decision and it's outcome before coming to a conclusion, often to the chagrin of whoever asked me. This includes everything from dinner plans to weekend plans to whether or not to buy that dress I love.
I imagine that everyone experiences indecision, particularly those with even the tiniest amount of self doubt. I have a lot of that, especially when faced with choices that have unknown outcomes. Who knows how far the ripples of this decision will go? Who knows what will actually happen if I choose this option, or that option?
My mom calls it "fear of success," instead of "fear of failure." She's right, I'm just as much afraid of it as the other. What happens if we do this thing, and it is great? Then what? What do we do when we've accomplished that thing we've always dreamed of? What happens if we accomplish it, then we realize we're in over our heads? The decision is already made, you're committed. It makes me just as nervous as the potential of failing at whatever I decide to do.
I have to admit though, I don't exactly agree with the implied morality of this quote. I don't know that it's advisable to go around being decisive without considering ramifications. Sure, if after careful thought you make a decision you consider wise, and it turns out to be the worse of the two options...I understand that. We all make mistakes. But to say, "I'm going to do this regardless of the consequences," is a different story. I've done that, and let me tell you, it can leave a swath of destruction in your path. Perhaps that is part of what often paralyzes me prior to deciding upon a thing. I've done the hasty decisions, the forgoing all consequences lifestyle, and I left a lot of damage behind, and within. I can't, won't, do that again. The hardest part of this kind of realization is that for me, it also comes with self doubt. I've seen what my quick-decisions yield, and it's not the kind of person I want to be. So...how can I trust myself to make the right decision, then?
While this is immediately applicable to personal lives, it is also present in work lives: I find it particularly present in graduate school. Every day I make decisions about models, variables, scale, data formatting, literature to include in review, people to consult, edits, accuracy and power of analyses, and biological significance of all of it. I often will decide upon a thing, consult 3 experts, and receive 3 different opinions from my own. That make 4 options, all of which (well, 3, anyway) are sound and significant. How do you pick? I still hold to my hope that my Master's Thesis will be a document of which I am proud, a document that is useful and accurate, rather than a document that people will scoff and reanalyze for publication. But...writing a perfect thesis means I'll be here forever, and no one--especially me--wants that.
So how, and when, do we compromise between a quick decision and the best decision? Sometimes consulting experts, elders, more experienced individuals helps...sometimes it muddies the water. Meditating on decisions helps, sometimes; sometimes it just keeps you in the holding pattern for longer. Closing your eyes and throwing a dart works, sometimes. Or you just end up stabbing yourself in the foot.
Sometimes, usually, a combination of all three works. And a whole lot of prayer. Sometimes, the right choice has a neon arrow pointing to it: we shouldn't be flat squirrels then. But sometimes, it's a little fuzzier, our depth perception--like the squirrels'--is a little off, and we have less time than we think to dicker about which side of the road at which to jump.
Maybe one day decisions will come easier for me. For now, though, by the grace of God, I'm grabbing my tail and narrowly avoiding life's tires...hopefully...for another day or two.
Thursday, March 24, 2016
Wednesday, March 2, 2016
Today is March 2nd, Dr. Seuss's birthday. Every year on this day, I read The Lorax, and every year that book and what it stands for becomes more important to me.
I'll try not to spend time re-typing it, or quoting a ton of it, except for the ending:
"That was long, long ago.
But each day since that day
I've sat here and worried and worried away.
Through the years, while my buildings
have fallen apart,
I've worried about it
with all of my heart.
"But now," says the Once-ler,
"Now that you're here, the word of the Lorax seems perfectly clear.
UNLESS someone like you
cares a whole awful lot,
nothing is going to get better.
Catch!" calls the Once-ler.
He lets something fall.
"It's a Truffula Seed.
It's the last one of all!
You're in charge of the last of the Truffula Seeds.
And Truffula Trees are what everyone needs.
Plant a new Truffula. Treat it with care.
Give it clean water. And feed it fresh air.
Grow a forest. Protect it from axes that hack.
Then the Lorax
and all of his friends
may come back."
I cannot read that without being filled with fear...and hope. Today, especially today, after our -ah-interesting Super Tuesday, the Lorax's message screams to me. Yes, I know that Dr. Seuss was primarily talking about deforestation, preaching a preservation message, railing against consumerism, but every year, this passage speaks to a different place in my life.
Sometimes it's about our natural resources: we are soon to be in dire straits in the energy and climate discussion.
Sometimes it's about relationships: we forget to nourish one another quite often.
Sometimes it's about faith: the seeds of truth should be planted and nourished, helped to grow in love and mercy, and flourish.
Sometimes...like this year...it's a little bit of everything: our environment is in trouble, our relationships are struggling, our integrity as a people is failing...
It's no wonder the Lorax lifted himself up by the seat of his pants.
It's no wonder the Once-ler hides in his Lerkim on top of his store.
It's no wonder our culture wants more, more, more!
Part of me wants to run away with the Lorax,
to disappear into the air with one sad, backwards glance.
But. (That's my favorite word, "but," there's so much potential, so much hope in that one little word.)
But, I can't. I can't just leave.
While I identify with the Lorax, and speak for the trees,
I can't just leave, because
I'm also in charge of the last Truffula seeds.
So are you, and you, and you!
Whether it's nature, or faith, or people, or space,
It's up to us to improve this place.
We use what we have,
and learn what we don't.
and hope that one day...
the Lorax, he won't:
won't look at us with those sad, oldish eyes,
won't look at us in a way we're despised,
instead he and his friends,
they'll come back.
Sunday, February 14, 2016
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
We know that we live in him and he in us, because he has given us his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in him and he in God. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.
God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgement, because in this world we are like him. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who did not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God, must also love his brother. -1John 4
The whole world cries out. Hear us: we need you. We love you. We long for a higher calling, a greater purpose, a perfect end.
The earth trembles with anticipation at each sunrise, each fresh breath of air.
People yearn for it. We look everywhere for it.
Look around. The earth is proof of your Valentine. The mountains, the valleys, they are here for you, for your heart. Look and see, his love is written in the stars, the sun, the moon. Open your eyes that you may see how great the Father's love for us.
On this day, the world celebrates love. Lord help me remember how I know true love. Lord you made it possible. You are love. And perfect love drives out fear. Oh Lord let me be your messenger of love and mercy, and let not my intentions stand between your message and the world.
Thursday, February 11, 2016
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All this sounds very inspiring and logical, or to me it does, but...that doesn't make the process easier. That doesn't particularly help me, now, when I'm feeling run down and discouraged at career outlooks, research outcomes, red tape ridiculousness, and budget shortcomings.
Maybe that's why this post has been brewing for days, instead of getting churned out in an hour.
How do you write to inspire love for the very thing with which you are currently disenchanted? How do you separate yourself from your insecurities surrounding your practical ability to be an agent of change?
. . .
I can't. We can't. I have stood on the mountain and listened. I have heard and seen what a world without balance looks like. I have seen hillsides scarred by our own work. I cannot, no matter how frustrated I get, give up on that cry, that yearning to understand the howl of the wolf. Those of us that hear it, is it not our duty to be human voices for it? Those of us that hear the cry of the Earth asking us to nurture it, can we not turn deaf ears to it? Those of us who need the out of doors to stay sane, can we not stifle that and lead lives of quiet desperation?
No. Well, we could. But. That call is irresistible, even in the darkest of moods. The call reaches there, in the deepest part of us, to remind us that we don't know, we can't fully know the objective cry of the wolf. But we have to try.
Sunday, January 24, 2016
Thursday, January 7, 2016
But my disagreement doesn't presume disdain toward the other party. Just because we don't understand a topic in the same way, or have drawn different conclusions, doesn't necessitate that the other is stupid. It shouldn't necessitate to the other person that I am stupid. (This, of course, assumes that both opinions are backed by something other than "because I said so.") It merely is an indication that our thought patterns, belief systems, or interpretations of a thing are different. It does not require that we immediately hate one another, or hold each other at arm's-length after this realization. In fact, in my mind, your relationship with that person becomes more valuable: differing opinions or understandings to your own can create an opportunity for all sorts of conversation! Aristotle purportedly said, "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." After a little digging, maybe he didn't say exactly that...but for my purposes, this serves. The premise is still fine: discussion is possible without hatred or judgement, without a conclusion of one mind being altered forever. Disagreement is possible without disdain.
How? Why is it so polarizing to make your opinions known? Make a comment on Facebook, only to be quickly defriended by someone who disagrees with you? I've done it, I've also probably been defriended because if this, too. There are a bunch of trite quotes I could include about what opinions are like, but you know them, and they are overused...so, consider them said. However, some of my favorite conversations with people have arisen from fundamental disagreement on how a thing works. What makes these conversations different than the inflammatory "conversations" that riddle social media today?
For starters, respect is present on both sides. Long ago, I made a decision to (try to) respect everyone with whom I came in contact. They are people like I am a person, their lives aren't any less important than mine. I believe this includes everyone: those who are my superiors, those who are my peers, those who I disagree with, and those I don't understand. By the same token, I would hope I conduct myself in a manner worthy of respect from others.
At any rate, respect is essential to having a discussion without a blow-up. So is patience. If you are too busy waiting to shoot someone down that you don't actually take the time to listen to the words coming out of their mouth...how do you expect them to give any more weight to your words than you do to theirs? Makes sense to me. Be patient, let them finish their sentence (or paragraph) before you jump in with a rebuttal. Take a second to think about what they say after they say it, before thoughtfully responding. To me, this comes easily. I thank my parents for that: they raised me to always listen to what they were saying, or what my little brother was saying, before responding. It's annoying when you're six, as everything you have to say is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER, but that lesson stuck...a lesson for which I am exceedingly grateful, now.
And, the greatest of all: love. If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or clanging cymbal.
If I walk into a conversation hating the person...what will I gain? Proud indignation when they do not to agree with me? Alienation of a person with differing thought? Loss of that person's respect? None of these things are things I desire, or aim for...ever. Nothing positive is accomplished with these outcomes: not in my mind, anyway. I'm not saying that you should automatically assume the other person is right, and I'm not saying you always assume that you're right: I'm simply offering the possibility that two individuals with differing opinions can walk away from a discussion on controversial topics still liking one another.
So what, Annaliese, why the self-help blog?
It did turn out that way, didn't it? I could say that I didn't mean it to, but I'm not surprised. These are things I've found to be useful when talking with people, I figured it couldn't hurt to share.
But what got me thinking about it?
The current sociopolitical climate is tricky to weather (pun intended...haw haw). Tides are shifting from recent historical times: inclusion and acceptance are proclaimed much more fully here than they have been in the past. Inclusion is awesome! Acknowledgement of different types of people is cool! There's a great line in Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves about that: "Allah loves wondrous variety." People are different, period, end of story. They look different, sound different, act different, and think different.
---I don't want to get into particular topics here, as I recognize that I have conservative, white, Christian privileges, and I'm not sure how much I want to bet on successfully maneuvering around them: failing success, I run the risk of losing some audience for this point. (Sidenote: hopefully you'd respect/recognize my intent, regardless of success or failure in that...but that's an entire tome of topics, not for now.)---
My concern has, and always been, that in an attempt to include something previously excluded, that something previously included gets ostracized. Please let me be clear here: this doesn't always happen, nor will it always continue to (sometimes) happen. I have seen cases come out both ways, regarding a number of topics. That's right, I read inflammatory comment sections and wall post threads: I want to know what makes people tick...or get ticked off. What is it that a person finds so intolerable that he cannot abide to be facebook friends with someone who's opinions differ? What is it that she finds so angering that she cannot follow someone's posts, or that he chooses to lecture an unknown individual on the internet? Personally, it's hard for me to find something that elicits that reaction. Probably because I hate to hate people. It's hard, takes a lot of work, and it's draining. Life is hard enough when you are trying to love everyone...I can't imagine life trying to hate some people and love other people. It's confusing, and it's scary: do they hate me? What about this person? Is he going to hate me if I share my opinion? Is she going to stop coming to my office if I speak my mind?
I can't hate. I won't. It's not worth it. Besides, I very strongly agree with this:
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love dos not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us...
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, "I love God," and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother."
Lays it out pretty simply (well, minus the repetitive words): love each other.
It doesn't say: "love people who look like you," or "love people who sound like you," or "love people who vote for the same presidential candidate as you," or "love people who only like their grits the same way you do," or "love people who speak the same dialect as you," or "love people who 100% always agree with your opinions."
It says "love one another."
Please, let me love you. I'm not asking you to love me back. I'm just asking that you let me love you for who you are, because that is who I am. And I'm not changing that because you think I'm crazy.
Monday, January 4, 2016
Okay, a lot of things. But this one in particular: when is sharing good, and when is it too much?
I'm not talking about sharing your crayons, or your food, or your car, or your clothes. I'm talking about sharing your thoughts, opinions, experiences, emotions, and fears. Everyone has people in which they confide: significant others, friends, parents, dogs...but how much is too much? Is there a line?
For instance: there's lots of people who have opinions on when to say "I love you" to that person you've been dating. Some say, wait until you're ready to marry them, wait until X number of months, or whenever you really feel it you should let it out. But, saying "I love you" carries power, no matter at what point in the relationship you say it.
I think secrets can hold that same power. Or, semi-private parts of relationships that you share with others. Secrets shared between friends give a lot of power to those friends. I believe it's very important to have those friends in which you can confide: those friends also keep you accountable when you get weird. I've been blessed with a great group of girlfriends I feel incredibly comfortable around: we share our fears and triumphs together, and it is so wonderful. Having been in a place in my life where I didn't feel like I could share things--well, really where I refused to share things--it is awesome to have that freedom once more. And while I do not fear my secrets being used inappropriately, I wonder: do we share too much? Is there a line?
We often joke that nothing is sacred...should it be? Do we hurt or hamper other relationships by sharing too much of them with others? Or does transparency keep us honest? What happens when the person you just fought with finds out a group of your friends now knows about it? What happens when that thing you've been struggling with isn't 100% secret? Do you get offended? Do you have a right to get offended? It's your secret. But it's been shared among loving people, who love you too. Does that kind of transparency make it okay? It seems that it would still rankle, even if only a tiny bit.
But...people are built for relationships. People are wired to share things. We need people to lean on in times of trouble, to rejoice with us in times of joy, people to talk us through tough times, and people to love us when we make mistakes. If we aren't at the least translucent, we don't have that opportunity. By the same token, we need to express our feelings toward others. We need to share emotions so that we may further understand them, and not keep them bottled up inside ourselves. Even so, we are cautioned in Song of Songs, a story of a pair of lovers,"I adjure you...that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases" (2:7, 3:5). We are cautioned to "Keep your heart will all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life," (Proverbs 4:23). We are cautioned not to declare our disagreements in the streets, but to amend quietly with one another so as not to dishonor our friends. Where in all this do you calculate friendships, bosom buddies? When does it stop becoming sharing and start becoming gossip? When the hearts of those sharing shift focus from love and respect to judgement and disdain? Even if the heart of the people still means well, does that make it right?
Internally, we all have a line. There are things I choose to keep to myself: perhaps for only a time, perhaps for eternity. I assume that is the same with others. If it's not, do those who are transparent pages of emotions need to learn to keep some to themselves? Or do us translucent individuals need to share it all, damning the consequences?
My parents, for many years, have prayed that I would have discernment and forbearance. I now have a vague understanding of both these terms, but I too pray for continued maturation of both. Discernment to know right from wrong, wise from unwise, and forbearance to know when to pick your battles. I think that transparency and translucency in our emotional lives could do from--at the least--a vague understanding of both of these. Is it wise to share the nitty gritty of the fight you just had with your husband? Is it right to share with your new girlfriend your moments of very strong feelings for her? Is it honorable to share with the girls what you struggle with in your relationship? Is it respectful to share it all? Forbearance tempered with discernment, when heeded, provides much of this guidance, I believe. There is a time for everything to be revealed, it's just up to us to fumble for our pocket watches, decipher the dials, and pray that it's telling the right time.